Your Guide to a Marriage Filled With Passion and Connection

Your marriage is on one of two paths: The Path of Intimacy or The Path of Separation.  You are either growing toward each other or growing apart. Here is a practical guide to help you get on and stay on The Path of Intimacy. 

Stuck in the Mud?

psalm 40:2

When your marriage seems stuck in the mud, don’t despair. Good things are on the horizon.

Jenni stood in the distance praying. Her fingers were in her ears so she wouldn’t hear my tires spinning in the mud, afraid I might slip right off the edge of the road as I tried one more time to get up the steep hill.

In pursuit of a long-time dream, we’d been searching for a mountain cabin ninety minutes or so from our home when we suddenly found ourselves stuck in the mud on a remote mountain road. Little did we know at the time that this was the hand of God at work to see our dreams fulfilled.

Stuck in the Marriage Mud

Does your marriage ever feel stuck in the mud? Do you feel like your wheels are spinning? Are there times when the pursuit of your marriage dreams lead you to what feels like a dead end with no way ahead, afraid that you might go off the edge and frustrated that you are getting nowhere?

I’ll finish our story in a minute, but first I want to assure you that regardless of where your relationship is today, God has a plan to get you unstuck and to see the fulfillment of your hopes for a strong, enduring, intimate and passionate marriage. Today you may not see how it is possible, and you might feel like God is silent, leaving you on your own to figure it out. Let me assure you, you are not alone. Ever.

The truth is that you are never beyond His loving reach or His ability to redeem and restore. He sees you. He knows your hopes and dreams. And He wants your marriage to be all it can be. He is ready to rescue.

Angels on the Way!

As my wife ended her prayer and I backed down from yet another failed ascent, we were shocked to see a couple strolling down the remote road toward us! Angels? Dressed in camo? They were angels to us! It turns out they were looking for property along the road but had been advised by their agent not to attempt to drive it. Good advice, I’d say.

I’ll spare you all the details of the long thread of equally miraculous subsequent events that led to the end of our story. In summary, the couple ended up calling their real estate agent, who advised us on a route out of our predicament. This same agent subsequently became our agent and found us the home of our dreams that we now have under contract.

Though we couldn’t see it at the time, it’s very clear to us in retrospect how the Lord orchestrated each amazing step along the way, including getting stuck in the mud, in order to help us see our dreams fulfilled.

From Mud to Mountaintop

Along our journey to the mountaintop, there were many twists and turns, some frustrating, some stressful and some fun and exciting. There were times along the path where the Lord made the way ahead crystal clear and times where we had to simply move forward in faith. There were times we ended up reversing direction, taking routes we didn’t even know existed.

Your journey toward the marriage of your dreams will likely be similarly complicated. Don’t despair and don’t give up. We only see in part. We see what’s behind us and maybe a bit of what is immediately in front of us. God sees the whole picture, beginning to end. He sees the fulfillment of your dreams, but it’s all in His timeframe. Keep praying and asking for His help. Keep on asking and don’t give up!

Here are a few truths to keep in mind as you navigate the road toward the marriage you long for:

  • God is faithful. He cannot be otherwise. It’s who He is. Trust Him.
  • Sometimes you just have to do the next thing you know to do, even if you can’t clearly see the end game.
  • Don’t let sidesteps and missteps derail and discourage you from your journey. Keep moving forward in faith and have grace toward yourself and your spouse.
  • Expect a few miracles along the way. Believe for them. Look for them. Celebrate them.
  • God is on your side. He fully agrees with your desire to have a great marriage.

As you move toward the marriage of your dreams, remember to testify along the way about what God is doing in your marriage. Look for opportunities to share with other couples who may need the encouragement of your story.

And remember, there is more for your marriage than what you ever imagined was possible. Go for more.


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