Your Guide to a Marriage Filled With Passion and Connection

Your marriage is on one of two paths: The Path of Intimacy or The Path of Separation.  You are either growing toward each other or growing apart. Here is a practical guide to help you get on and stay on The Path of Intimacy. 

Pleasure and Fun Rolled Into One

Improving your sexual connection doesn’t have to be work. 

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In last week’s post, I announced my new book, Pump Up the Passion. In the book, I tell you about the five habits any couple can develop to deepen and sustain the level of passion and intimacy in their marriage. 

Two of the five habits are Play and Pleasure. And it just so happens that I just designed and released a couple’s game that includes both!

On a Roll is a bedroom game that can be as mild or wild as you like. In addition to being a provocatively fun game of chance, the game is designed to enhance your sexual connection as you take time to learn about and focus on each other’s pleasure. 

Play Builds Connection

Healthy, happy marriages almost always include a regular dose of fun and adventure. Breaking away from routines is an essential part of keeping your marriage vibrant and thriving. Conversely, boredom from mundane everyday existence can put your marriage on auto-pilot, which saps the energy and intimacy from your relationship.

Fun and adventure create positive brain chemistry that is good for your personal state of mind and for the well-being of your marriage. There are plenty of studies that point to the link between fun and relationship health.  Simply stated:

Couples who play together, stay together. 

Fellow blogger Kevin Thompson, in his post “Playfulness: One Sign of a Healthy Marriage, says that “Few things breed intimacy, and few things reveal intimacy as much as playfulness.” I whole-heartedly agree. 

In Pump Up the Passion, I provide plenty of practical “Playfulness Pointers” to help you inject more fun into your marriage. To that list, I’ll add my new game, On A Roll

Making Pleasure the Destination

Too often we make lovemaking about the destination instead of the journey. When we are end-game focused, we miss the opportunity to anticipate and enjoy little pleasures all along the way. 

I specifically created On A Roll to help couples focus on making pleasure the main event. The format allows you to express the things that give you pleasure, to learn about what gives your partner pleasure, and then to spend time giving and receiving. It’s a great framework for communicating about your sexual connection and how to enhance it.

God is hugely pro-sex (he invented it after all) and He is also hugely pro-pleasure.

In Your presence is fullness of joy; 
At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Psalm 16:11 (NKJ)

Further, God purposefully designed us with a significant capacity for pleasure and made our physical bodies so that husband and wife can enjoy each other in the ultimate expression of intimacy: the sexual union. This is where two literally become one flesh.  


Shop for On a Roll in my HMM web store now, or check out the game page for more details.



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