What have you done today to put your marriage ahead of other priorities?
Little things matter. They matter a lot. And doing little things for your marriage every day will make a huge difference in your relationship in the long run. Grand gestures are fun and exciting and I love doing them for my wife. But my marriage can’t survive on occasional grand gestures. I need to show her every day that I love her, that she matters to me, and that our marriage matters to me.
It’s easy to get distracted and not pay much attention to your marriage. Life takes over, and soon the craziness steals our focus away from our most important earthly relationship: the one with our spouse.
You see, you only have one covenant relationship on this earth, and that is the one with your spouse. To me, that makes everything else optional.
Yes, of course, I realize you need to keep your job and take care of the kids, but the truth is that you don’t have a covenant with those things. Except for your relationship with Jesus, nothing else in your life should matter as much as your marriage.
My friends and fellow CMBA board members Tom and Debi Walter, who blog at The Romantic Vineyard, have just released a great new resource to help couples stay focused on their marriage relationship. It’s call Cherishing Us, 365 Tips for a Healthy Marriage.
What does it mean to cherish your marriage? Webster’s defines it this way:
- to hold dear: feel or show affection for
- to keep or cultivate with care and affection: nurture
- to entertain or harbor in the mind deeply and resolutely
What I love about this book is that it’s bite-sized and practical. For each day there is a short phrase, no more than a sentence or two, that encourages you to consider something about your marriage. For digging a little deeper, there are monthly Contemplation Questions, Date Night suggestions, and additional thoughts on the importance of cherishing one another, many of which come from their insightful Romantic Vineyard posts.